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My husband and I officially started our birthing class last month. We are required to take what is called a Bradley class by our birthing center. Bradley classes promote non-medicated births/natural child birth and also advocate fewer hospital interventions. I know at least half a dozen people who've had babies in the last six months or so, and out of all of them, only one couple actually attended a birthing class. Now that I've been to a few of them, I don't understand why more people don't do it. They are great.
On the surface, it seemed like an expensive investment -- almost $200. It's probably not that much in the big picture of how much babies cost, but I'm sure we could have happily spent that money on something else. However, our tuition included a $100 gift certificate to Gymboree. I know for a fact we'd never spend that much money at a place like Gymboree (do we really need someone to teach us how to play with our kid? does anyone?), but at least it feels like we are getting half our money back from our birthing classes.
The information we are learning is fantastic. When I talk to my other pregnant friends now, I'm the one full of weird factoids about pregnancy and child birth. I feel knowledgeable. Plus -- and maybe this is the biggest benefit -- a LOT of what we are learning is massage and comfort techniques. Let me rephrase that: my husband has to learn how to make me feel better. And we are required to practice. We are learning things like back rubs and massages. Even the labor positions we are learning feel good right now, even though I'm nowhere near going into labor. It's great.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Persistence or 100%?
The other night, I apologized to my instructor for skipping class a few times in a row (I always try to go once a week, sometimes more, but sometimes even once a week doesn't quite work out) and admitted that sometimes lately it's been hard to push myself to come to class. For one, I can't always participate in everything anymore, and that can make me feel left out. Also, I often have to dial back or stop early when we are working on something particular -- if we are in the middle of a highly aerobic exercise, for example, or if we are devoting an entire night to kicking routines -- and that makes me feel like I'm not trying hard enough. I'm also taking more breaks: snack breaks and bathroom breaks. I swear, this week, every time I stand up, I discover I have to pee again. It was funny for about ten minutes, then it became super annoying.
My instructor told me that every time I come out onto the mat, I am an inspiration to the other people in class, because if I can come to class pregnant, then everyone else's excuses for missing class seem lame by comparison. I was surprised to hear this. First of all, it's not hard to COME to class as a pregnant lady -- showing up is the easy part; it's doing my best that's getting more and more difficult. Or, perhaps, my "best" is just less and less as the weeks go by.
This brings up a lot of issues and ideas for me. First, let me acknowledge that the standards for my performance are stunningly low compared to anyone else in class. If I'm working out with everyone and an instructor is walking around offering tips or corrections, they never tell me anything anymore. It's as if they pass me over as long as I'm still upright and breathing. I realize that it might be a little harsh to tell the pregnant lady she's not kicking high enough, but I didn't expect the standards to be SO LOW that I could basically perform like a buffoon and everyone would just pretend they didn't notice. Some of the male instructors, quite honestly, still ask me every time they see me if I'm OK doing the stretching exercises or the warm-ups. I don't want to be snarky, but YES, I'M OK and if I'm not, I'll stop, I promise, you don't have to check in all the time. Maybe this is because my gut keeps getting bigger and, as guys, they are all waiting for it to explode into labor at the drop of a hat.
Second, before I got pregnant, I never really wanted to go to class if I didn't feel my best. If my muscles were sore from a previous workout or I had a cold or I was tired, I would skip class thinking that I needed to save it for when I was in peak condition. I'm still not sure how I feel about this on the other side -- since, now that I'm pregnant, every time I go to class I'm not in peak condition. Which one is more important, giving 100% or simply showing persistence?
My instructors have been pushing hard on the persistence angle recently, possibly because the classes have been smaller over this past winter. They want us to come no matter how we feel. They tell us that, for example, if you've hurt your knee or ankle, you can still come to class and do arm workouts. The idea seems to be that skipping is for sissies and that real martial artists would just come to class every night no matter what.
But, the other side of that is that those same instructors hardly ever want to hear about excuses or injuries when we come to class. If someone shows up with an injured wrist, it's pretty likely that an instructor will ask, "How bad is it really?" or "But you can still do self-defense [or whatever the workout is for the night] anyway, right?" I'm not sure they understand that when we come to class feeling less than great, we feel bad when we have to bow out of an activity, especially when they are pushing us to do everything anyway. Sometimes skipping class when we are injured is the only way to gracefully opt out of these weird, uncomfortable conversations.
I've discovered my own voice in this since I've been pregnant. I don't feel so bad standing up to the instructors anymore, but I know it's entirely because I can "blame the baby." Technically, it's someone else's fault that I can't hold the kicking pad today. But even so, sometimes I'm still super uncomfortable saying what I can and can't do to someone else, especially someone else who outranks me. When there are exactly enough people in the class for a partner drill, but I have to opt out because I can't hold the pad, I feel like I'm ruining class for everyone.
My instructor told me that every time I come out onto the mat, I am an inspiration to the other people in class, because if I can come to class pregnant, then everyone else's excuses for missing class seem lame by comparison. I was surprised to hear this. First of all, it's not hard to COME to class as a pregnant lady -- showing up is the easy part; it's doing my best that's getting more and more difficult. Or, perhaps, my "best" is just less and less as the weeks go by.
This brings up a lot of issues and ideas for me. First, let me acknowledge that the standards for my performance are stunningly low compared to anyone else in class. If I'm working out with everyone and an instructor is walking around offering tips or corrections, they never tell me anything anymore. It's as if they pass me over as long as I'm still upright and breathing. I realize that it might be a little harsh to tell the pregnant lady she's not kicking high enough, but I didn't expect the standards to be SO LOW that I could basically perform like a buffoon and everyone would just pretend they didn't notice. Some of the male instructors, quite honestly, still ask me every time they see me if I'm OK doing the stretching exercises or the warm-ups. I don't want to be snarky, but YES, I'M OK and if I'm not, I'll stop, I promise, you don't have to check in all the time. Maybe this is because my gut keeps getting bigger and, as guys, they are all waiting for it to explode into labor at the drop of a hat.
Second, before I got pregnant, I never really wanted to go to class if I didn't feel my best. If my muscles were sore from a previous workout or I had a cold or I was tired, I would skip class thinking that I needed to save it for when I was in peak condition. I'm still not sure how I feel about this on the other side -- since, now that I'm pregnant, every time I go to class I'm not in peak condition. Which one is more important, giving 100% or simply showing persistence?
My instructors have been pushing hard on the persistence angle recently, possibly because the classes have been smaller over this past winter. They want us to come no matter how we feel. They tell us that, for example, if you've hurt your knee or ankle, you can still come to class and do arm workouts. The idea seems to be that skipping is for sissies and that real martial artists would just come to class every night no matter what.
But, the other side of that is that those same instructors hardly ever want to hear about excuses or injuries when we come to class. If someone shows up with an injured wrist, it's pretty likely that an instructor will ask, "How bad is it really?" or "But you can still do self-defense [or whatever the workout is for the night] anyway, right?" I'm not sure they understand that when we come to class feeling less than great, we feel bad when we have to bow out of an activity, especially when they are pushing us to do everything anyway. Sometimes skipping class when we are injured is the only way to gracefully opt out of these weird, uncomfortable conversations.
I've discovered my own voice in this since I've been pregnant. I don't feel so bad standing up to the instructors anymore, but I know it's entirely because I can "blame the baby." Technically, it's someone else's fault that I can't hold the kicking pad today. But even so, sometimes I'm still super uncomfortable saying what I can and can't do to someone else, especially someone else who outranks me. When there are exactly enough people in the class for a partner drill, but I have to opt out because I can't hold the pad, I feel like I'm ruining class for everyone.
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Review: Ina May's Guide to Childbirth
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth
A lot of different people recommended this book to me, and I'd heard of Ina May Gaskin before, so I was excited to read it. I figured it would be somewhat along the lines of The Thinking Woman's Guide to Better Birth, but maybe more from a midwife's perspective. But actually, I found this book to a lot more involved. True, it does have some of the same information as Thinking Woman's Guide, especially about interventions at the hospital, but half the book is devoted to the stories of natural childbirth, and that was something I hadn't seen before.
I like the idea behind it. We are exposed to so many stories about birth from our family members and friends, movies and TV shows, that we think that labor has to be excruciatingly painful and full of danger. The birth stories included here dispel some of that -- these births are sometimes painful, but also very joyful. Some of them don't seem to hurt at all. Overwhelmingly, the feeling of confidence and accomplishment from the mothers is what comes through.
The second half of the book explores why hospital settings can be so irritating to laboring women. My husband especially liked the description of the "Sphincter Principle," which states that there are similarities to being able to give birth on command in a room full of strangers with being able to pee on command in a room full of strangers. To make it easier, you should be in a quiet, private space where you feel safe and respected and among people you trust. Gaskin gives plenty of scientific backup, but my reaction after reading it was, "DUH."
A lot of different people recommended this book to me, and I'd heard of Ina May Gaskin before, so I was excited to read it. I figured it would be somewhat along the lines of The Thinking Woman's Guide to Better Birth, but maybe more from a midwife's perspective. But actually, I found this book to a lot more involved. True, it does have some of the same information as Thinking Woman's Guide, especially about interventions at the hospital, but half the book is devoted to the stories of natural childbirth, and that was something I hadn't seen before.
I like the idea behind it. We are exposed to so many stories about birth from our family members and friends, movies and TV shows, that we think that labor has to be excruciatingly painful and full of danger. The birth stories included here dispel some of that -- these births are sometimes painful, but also very joyful. Some of them don't seem to hurt at all. Overwhelmingly, the feeling of confidence and accomplishment from the mothers is what comes through.
The second half of the book explores why hospital settings can be so irritating to laboring women. My husband especially liked the description of the "Sphincter Principle," which states that there are similarities to being able to give birth on command in a room full of strangers with being able to pee on command in a room full of strangers. To make it easier, you should be in a quiet, private space where you feel safe and respected and among people you trust. Gaskin gives plenty of scientific backup, but my reaction after reading it was, "DUH."
Thursday, March 11, 2010
No ID?
A few nights ago, my husband and I met downtown for happy hour. For some reason -- let's chalk it up to the Pregnancy Forgetsies -- I didn't have my wallet. I guess I'd taken it out of my purse for some reason and didn't put it back. The guy at the door asked for my ID and I scrambled around, feeling really embarrassed and hopeless.
Then I stuck out my giant tummy and said, "Well, I'm pregnant, it's not like I can drink anyway."
He waved me right in, no ID needed. Then I had a German non-alcoholic beer that tasted like ass.
Then I stuck out my giant tummy and said, "Well, I'm pregnant, it's not like I can drink anyway."
He waved me right in, no ID needed. Then I had a German non-alcoholic beer that tasted like ass.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Review: DVD Penatal Yoga Complete with Mary Poppas-Sandonas
As I've previously stated, yoga and I don't really get along. I've taken a handful of formal classes and followed the show Namaste Yoga on FitTV. So, I'm not the expert on this field. But I figure it's ok because as soon as I'm not pregnant anymore, I'm planning to continue my life's work of avoiding yoga at all costs.
But I promised I'd give ol' prenatal yoga a shot, just to make sure I wasn't missing out on something; it's my first time being pregnant, what do I know? So I got the DVD "Prenatal Yoga Complete" with Mary Poppas-Sandonas. And let's just say my attitude didn't change much.
1. There are no pregnant ladies in this video. Instead it's just a skinny instructor who looks kind of silly using ten or fifteen props to get her lithe, flexible body into position. I didn't think this would bother me so much, but it did.
2. This kind of yoga hurts. The very first thing (after all the precautions, because nothing makes a pregnant lady feel like exercising than hearing about the eight hundred ways she's going to make her baby stupid if she does it wrong) was Hero's Pose, which is basically kneeling on the ground. But the instructions says to "move your calf muscles away from your legs to make room for your butt." Um, my calf muscles are attached to my legs. Where am I supposed to move them to? I did what she said and it just caused excruciating pain up and down my legs and knees. So I stopped, per the cautionary instructions.
3. It requires too many props. How many props to do Hero's Pose? Four! Four things required for a pregnant lady to kneel on the ground -- a mat (fine, that was expected), two washcloths for my ankles, and a wooden block for my butt. Every pose required many, many props, and I didn't really have any of them. I used all the spare bathroom towels and pillows and couch cushions and still had the distinct feeling that they weren't good enough.
3. This is basically just laying or relaxing in a position for a few minutes before assembling the required props to set up the next position. It was a lot of setting up (the instructions helpfully suggest pausing the video to get everything in the right place!) and then ... sitting in the position forever. I was expecting more movement. More, you know, exercising.
4. It claims to help with morning sickness. Wrong.
5. It has literally hours of video for every trimester. That's one thing I really liked. There are sections for sleeping better, feeling more energized and getting rid of headaches in addition to the section on morning sickness. And there are other sections for each of the trimesters, too, plus fertitility routines. A lot of information packed into one DVD, that's nice.
But I promised I'd give ol' prenatal yoga a shot, just to make sure I wasn't missing out on something; it's my first time being pregnant, what do I know? So I got the DVD "Prenatal Yoga Complete" with Mary Poppas-Sandonas. And let's just say my attitude didn't change much.
1. There are no pregnant ladies in this video. Instead it's just a skinny instructor who looks kind of silly using ten or fifteen props to get her lithe, flexible body into position. I didn't think this would bother me so much, but it did.
2. This kind of yoga hurts. The very first thing (after all the precautions, because nothing makes a pregnant lady feel like exercising than hearing about the eight hundred ways she's going to make her baby stupid if she does it wrong) was Hero's Pose, which is basically kneeling on the ground. But the instructions says to "move your calf muscles away from your legs to make room for your butt." Um, my calf muscles are attached to my legs. Where am I supposed to move them to? I did what she said and it just caused excruciating pain up and down my legs and knees. So I stopped, per the cautionary instructions.
3. It requires too many props. How many props to do Hero's Pose? Four! Four things required for a pregnant lady to kneel on the ground -- a mat (fine, that was expected), two washcloths for my ankles, and a wooden block for my butt. Every pose required many, many props, and I didn't really have any of them. I used all the spare bathroom towels and pillows and couch cushions and still had the distinct feeling that they weren't good enough.
3. This is basically just laying or relaxing in a position for a few minutes before assembling the required props to set up the next position. It was a lot of setting up (the instructions helpfully suggest pausing the video to get everything in the right place!) and then ... sitting in the position forever. I was expecting more movement. More, you know, exercising.
4. It claims to help with morning sickness. Wrong.
5. It has literally hours of video for every trimester. That's one thing I really liked. There are sections for sleeping better, feeling more energized and getting rid of headaches in addition to the section on morning sickness. And there are other sections for each of the trimesters, too, plus fertitility routines. A lot of information packed into one DVD, that's nice.
Quick Review: Fit and Pregnant by Joan Marie Butler
Finally, a book that is about how to exercise while you're pregnant that doesn't include a meal plan and a prescribed workout. This one focuses on some popular sports and how to modify them for pregnancy. My only issue is that the "popular" sports don't include the one I like best (martial arts), but I'll cut some the author some slack because there's quite a lot about cycling.
One thing I've found a little silly about a lot of pregnancy workout books is this idea that they need to include everything about being pregnant -- as if this is the ONLY book I'm going to read about what happens to my body while I'm with child. Fit and Pregnant doesn't follow this method, thankfully, and only includes the physical changes that relate to specific exercises. For example, looser ligaments can lead to running injuries if you don't pay attention. I also appreciate that in the section on what exercises to avoid, most of the advice is about avoiding injury to the mom-to-be instead of the baby; the baby is relatively safe inside the uterus, but if the pregnant mom gets hurt, some drugs and interventions (I'm guessing surgery, for example) aren't recommended or allowed. So, in other words, the main reason you don't want to continue downhill skiing or whatever is because YOU might get hurt and then be stuck on the couch in a cast until the baby comes. This makes a lot more sense to me than some of the other advice I've seen.
Another great section is about weight training. I don't do much of that, but one thing Fit and Pregnant points out is that working on the weight machines at the gym is a nice, safe way to keep the right muscles working even if you can't continue to participate in your favorite sports. So, if you find you can't keep cycling like you want to, you can work out the same muscle groups on a machine instead. Ah, some practical advice.
This book includes sections on the following sports: pilates, yoga (always with the yoga, these books), aerobics, weight training, running, walking, hiking, swimming, rowing, cycling, and a bunch of winter activities that I skipped over (no winter down here in Texas). Plus, in the back is a section called "Resources" that lists a bunch more books and websites -- including websites for maternity workout clothes and equipment.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Quick Review: Super Fit Mama, by Tracey Mallet
Super Fit Mama, by Tracey Mallet
Ah, yes, let's all be Super Fit Mamas, shall we? Under the title of this one are the words: "Stay Fit During Pregnancy and Get Your Body Back After Baby!" Arg, my body has been high-jacked by the baby I GREW ALL BY MYSELF, must ... fix it ... must ... pretend I never grew a baby by the POWER OF MY OWN BODY. This is slightly more annoying than the idea of Buff Mom-To-Be following on the heels of Buff Bride-To-Be.
Again, this book is contains a workout routine to do while you're pregnant and after the baby is born. I give it bonus points because she actually wrote several different workouts, one for each trimester and three for different phases of postpartum life. However, I'm taking away points because all her "success" stories involve people who hated working out and ate junk food all the time before they start her program. Let's all be clear: when you don't exercise but do eat junk food, changing those things usually results in you being fitter, no matter which diet or workout routine you pick. I'm waiting around for someone to address those of us who do eat well and already workout but don't ever see any results from any new diet or exercise program. Plus, most of her examples lost between 15 - 30 pounds; by the end of my pregnancy, I will probably need to lose that amount from each of my boobs, so I will probably need something more powerful.
The pregnancy workouts are pretty nice. They are short and use stuff you probably already have at home (I'm a fan of not having to buy anything to participate). Plus, the back of the book includes an eating guide with some recipes. I've made a handful of them and can attest that they are pretty tasty. Flax seed pancakes = yum.
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